About Andrea

I am a wife and mom who is just trying to survive each day with a little bit of grace.

Fit For A Princess

2 new tiaras have made their way into my house …
One for each daughter to wear to the upcoming Daddy/Daughter Dance.

I am pretty sure these tiaras mean more to me than they do to Marco or either girl. They represent something I never truly had; an involved father.

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I love my dad more than anything. I know he tried. I know he did the best he knew how, especially with his very weird work schedule (he rotated days and nights so we rarely saw him).
My desire, even as a 40 year old married woman with 5 kids, is to please him and make him proud of me. I still feel like a little kid around him; I want him to notice me. Everything single thing I do, I do for his approval.

Despite always asking, he never did anything like this (a daddy/daughter dance) with me. He danced with me once at my wedding.

He never went to my concerts, plays, games, … I’m not saying he didn’t give me extravagant gifts or life changing opportunities. He did. I appreciate each one more than you can ever know. Sometimes, however, it is little things that make the bigger impact on a person’s soul.

I love my dad and I logically know he simply struggles with showing his love for me (and everyone else). He thinks gifts are the best way to say “I love you” or “I’m sorry” or whatever emotion he can’t vocalize. What I always wanted and needed was for him to dance with me, come to my concerts, cheer me on at my games …
I still desperately want him to be proud and approve, but I fall short every time.

My dad and I have a story and it is ours. Most of it is messy, but there are some really nice parts too; like the one time he acted silly and he piggy-backed my down the aisle at my rehearsal dinner. It was completely out of character for him and it is one of my favorite memories of him. I accept our story, but it doesn’t mean I want the same story for my daughters and Marco is well aware of that fact. This is why this dance is ridiculously important to me. It is the girls’ first dance ever and they get to go with the best man in the world.

I always wanted my husband to be the dad who did things with his daughters, like dress up in ties and tiaras (which happens to be the dance theme) and dance the night away. I wanted them to have the dad who went to their concerts and plays and what-not.

They have all of that and more. They get nightly piggy-back rides to bed, special songs sung to them, random dancing in the living room, and so much more. The girls love their daddy and he is amazing at making time for each child (not an easy feat with 5 kids). They want to go to the dance and so he is bringing them. I confess I get jealous at times. Not bitter. I just wish I had what they have with their daddy.

This dance is the closest I will ever get to a daddy/daughter dance, so I although neither girl expected or asked for a tiara, I bought them each one. I will dress them up and put make-up on them and do their hair fancy and make them feel like royalty. I will love and cherish each second of getting them ready. I get to live my dream out through them. I hope one day they look back and see how very lucky they are to have Marco as their daddy.

Now excuse me while I go put one of their tiaras on while I do housework.

~Andrea
#bekindalways
#youhavepurpose

*written 3/28/18*

UPDATE:

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The girls and their daddy. Be still my heart.

The 11 year old doesn’t like dresses so we shopped for a beautiful pants outfit. The top is so feminine and perfect on her!
They had an amazing time. The girls got to dance with their daddy.
The 8 year old was a social butterfly, flitting around and dancing with her friends. The 11 year old had a blast with her friends. They all did the Chicken Dance.

Me and Mark with copyright

It might not have been my dance, but I love a man in a suit and had to get a picture before the moment disappeared.

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A Review: Pineapple Pick Me Up Face Mask

I love face masks. I always have. They are fun and usually make my skin feel amazingly soft. When I started using Perfectly Posh products I couldn’t wait to try the face masks. I quickly discovered these masks were superior to the ones I used to buy at the local drug store.

The ingredients are naturally based and safe for even my kids to use! Because there are no fillers, a little goes a long way so I am really getting a great deal. Plus, they work better than I could have ever dreamed of.

Everyone who uses Posh has a “go to” mask; a favorite. I literally tried every single mask before I found a favorite and it was the one I was originally least excited about. It is unassuming; clear and light instead of thick and some fun color that makes for a great selfie. What mask is it? Pineapple Pick Me Up.

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The first time I tried it I was live on my Facebook VIP page. I described the luscious pineapple scent, but other than that I wasn’t immediately impressed. It was clear, light, and I really didn’t feel a tingle so I doubted it was working. I told my group that the mask was OK, but certainly not my favorite. Then I washed the face mask off …

… And suddenly I was sold! My opinion changed on the spot. My skin felt soft, smooth, and had a radiant glow! I felt beautiful; like a new bride! I now use this mask at last once a week and it takes my dull winter skin and transforms it into a gorgeous glow.

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Unassuming, you can’t even tell I am wearing a face mask! 

So what makes Pineapple Pick Me Up so great, I mean aside from the fact it makes me look and feel amazing?

Well, let me tell you!
Pineapple Pick Me Up is an exfoliation mask, also called an OFF mask. It removes dead skin using a chemical exfoliation with tropical fruit enzymes (so good chemicals, not scary ones).

Ingredients:

*Bromelain (pineapple) and papain (papaya) help gently break down dry dead skin cells for a rapid exfoliation; cleansing and brightening skin for a beautiful glow. They are full of vitamin C which pampers acne, fine lines, sun-damaged skin, and uneven skin tones. Bromelain also softens skin and soothes inflammation and swelling.

*Acai and mangosteen extract are full of antioxidants in the forms of vitamins A, C, and E, which protect your skin from free radicals and leave your skin nourished and rejuvenated.
They also contain anti-inflammatory properties, that help soothe acne, and fatty acids (omega 3,6, and 9) which helps moisturize dry skin.

*Neem oil & honey are both moisturizing and are antibacterial agents that help cleanse your skin.

*Moringa and pomegranate restore hydration and re-balance your skin.

 

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I love the radiant glow I have after using PPMU

Combine these ingredients and you are left with a magical facial elixir that will leave you feeling refreshed and fabulous! At least that is how I always feel afterward. So if you want to feel radiant then I definitely suggest Pineapple Pick Me Up.

~Andrea
#bekindalways
#youhavepurpose

*If you are interested in trying this, or any other Posh product, go HERE.

Pain Tolerance

As a parent I am guilty of blaming myself for every bad decision my children make and every negative emotion they feel. I carry the weight on my shoulders and in my heart. I think most of us are guilty of this.
I just want my kids to be happy, well liked, have good manners, be successful …

One of my kids went through something very traumatizing last summer. The trauma impacted all of us deeply and I blame myself. What could I have done to prevent this from happening? What did I do or fail to do that created this reality? The questions are constant and run through my mind on auto-play 24/7.

The event was a big enough deal I asked Marco how he felt about counseling. I wanted someone who could help us handle our emotions properly, help me develop enough peace so I could sleep at night again, and guide us on new parenting strategies since my old ones obviously weren’t good enough.

When you are dealing with the aftermath of a crisis forgiving yourself, moving forward, realizing there was nothing you could do to change what happened, accepting the choice was someone else’s and you do not control their choices, or whatever else is holding you back is a long process. There is no quick fix. There will be good days and bad days. It is hard work.

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There are sessions I felt were pointless because of my own mental blocks. And then it happened; a break through. In session I was able to realize pain tolerance goes beyond physical pain. It was all part of a longer conversation, and it was a light-bulb moment for me that helped at least a little. Everyone has an emotional pain tolerance and how they deal with it is based on how they are wired.

We do not think someone is less capable when they need pain medication for something we personally do not need medicine for. We realize not everyone can handle the same amount of pain. We accept that. So why is it hard to accept people also have different pain thresholds for their emotions?

We need to realize and accept not everyone can handle the same amount of emotional pain. Maybe you think their story is “nothing compared to…” but everyone’s story matters. We can’t know their pain tolerance so comparing it to anyone else’s is most unhelpful to them and you.

Why do I keep blaming myself for my child’s crisis? Each of my children were born wired to handle a certain amount of pain (physical, mental, and emotional). My one child hit a limit. There is nothing I can do about that now.  Now that know the limit I can try to teach them better ways to prevent hitting that limit and ways to handle it when they do.

Now to work on that forgiving myself thing ….

~Andrea
#bekindalways
#youhavepurpose

*originally written 1-10-18*

2018 Has Been A Long Year …

… and it is only February (at least it was at the time I originally wrote this. It is now April …). I really thought this long year would end when January ended, but February was January’s ornery younger sister. I was not amused.

Instead of wallowing I was doing the best I could to keep my head above the water. It has to get better, right?! I was at the point where I was able to do more than just tread water. I was slowly moving forward …

Then March came in and decided to put January and February to shame. That totally angered April, who apparently thinks she needs to show the other months how to really show the world what “craptastic” means.

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I don’t even know which way is up anymore. I think the biggest slap in the face is I no longer have a therapist/counselor/person I word vomit to. I don’t even know why. He said he was in for the long haul. It ended up being a short haul.

I suppose I could find a new one, but honestly this whole experience enforced my belief to trust no one because everyone leaves.

So now that you know why all 20 of my drafts (yes I have been writing regularly) have not been published (it has been the longest year ever).

I want to discuss some other changes; namely the name. I needed a change. It is that simple. I had a temporary name (Sunshine & Daisies) until I could come up with “the one.” It just took awhile to discover the perfect fit, but I finally did.

My Patronus Is Coffee almost sums up my life perfectly. I figured “My Patronus Is Coffee With a Side of Posh” was too long though. Maybe that can be a subtitle.

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I think I need a travel mug that says “Andrea Runs on Dunkin” 

I do not sleep. I function off my many caffeinated cups of coffee (because decaf doesn’t even deserve my side glance). Coffee keeps me awake, semi-sane, and mostly pleasant. When people visit they offer a cup of the hot elixir to appease me (OK I may be making that part up, but maybe y’all will take a hint).

So to sum up … this far 2018 sucks, I have no grounding anymore, I can’t be held responsible for things I say or do if you visit me without an offering of coffee … oh, and I changed the name of my blog.

~Andrea
#bekindalways
#youhavepurpose

PS I will get those other 19 drafts touched up and posted asap.

A Year of Change

Be Brave, have faith, and leap …

There comes a point where you just have to step out in faith or you will be forever stuck. It is scary and exhilarating at the same time. I decided I needed to do just that for 2017; step out of my box of known and face the unknown. I did it in phases which made it slightly easier, but hard nonetheless.

 

If you have been reading for a while or if you know me, then you know 3 years ago my husband lost his job and it put us in a tailspin. This is a vital part of our story. It changed everything in unimaginable ways that will forever impact us. After a year we found stability in a job that kept us firmly and significantly under the poverty level. We were lucky though. We had help. Lots of help. Randomly things we needed would appear; people and organizations would help us in every capacity. The kids knew life was rough, but they also knew we were blessed.

What they didn’t know is I skipped meals so they could have full bellies. Clothes were from clothing banks and I mended the holes so they didn’t know. Every month we had disconnect notices. A broken down car was like a jail sentence. Not being able to fix it meant if I couldn’t walk there then I wasn’t going. But we survived. We worked hard and scraped by.

And then I broke. Sometimes just surviving isn’t enough. I couldn’t handle the cycle of poverty we found ourselves in. It is suffocating and depressing and hopeless. It is almost impossible to escape from it. The terrifying thing is people live like this and do not have the help we had. How the heck do they manage? The cycle is almost 100% impossible to break from and I knew this, but I was determined because I couldn’t keep living the way we were.

So I took a leap of faith.

In January I took money I had been slowly saving and invested in an opportunity. I started to sell Perfectly Posh. 2017 was the business building year. We now have hope in my future income instead of despair at where we are at.

In the spring I stopped going to the food pantry and clothing bank. Both were huge leaps of faith since I had nothing to replace this help with. I just made a decision to stop going and instead have faith the gap would be filled.

I also started donating little bits to charity. By summer I was tithing to my church and by fall I was rounding that up so the difference could go to helping others in poverty while we ourselves still live in it. Isn’t that ironic? We still don’t make enough to be above the poverty line. However, we are more than surviving …

The biggest leap was deciding I would not get help from any organizations for Christmas. I panicked and thought it was a stupid decision, but deep down I knew I had to as part of my break away from the cycle we were in. So I took a deep breath and told God “I trust you with my business because it is all for your glory and not mine.”

That is when things got weird.

Not knowing we had a need, someone generously gave us gifts for our oldest. They just didn’t want the items anymore and so we got them. We were also given Pokemon trading cards … lots of them. My kids love Pokemon and play every Saturday at a local comic book store. This was a big deal and made for very excited children on Christmas.
My girls were blessed with a new-to-them bike to share. It didn’t stop there … It has been overwhelming. I hadn’t confided to many about my fears of no Christmas; only a select few who know our situation anyway. The people who helped have no idea the depth of their actions. They were miraculously placed in our lives at the right time. I believe in Divine Intervention.

My kids had an amazing Christmas. It wasn’t over the top and most of the gifts were second-hand, but they got things they wanted and things they never dreamed to ask for. They were thrilled. My money went further than it should have. So many stores had discounts that were allowed to be stacked, shipping was free, and then I was able to get cash back through ebates or swagbucks.

 

Is there stuff I want and even need that I didn’t get? Definitely. But I am OK with that because what we do have shouldn’t even be! This insane leap of faith paid off.

We still have so far to go. I can’t imagine the day we make a real living wage again. We still can’t afford the car we need (we do not all fit in the car we currently have). At the end of the month I still skip most meals so the food doesn’t run out on the kids. There are holes in socks and no plan on replacing them anytime soon. BUT it is so much better than it was. The circle of poverty that surrounds us is crumbling and there is now hope where there wasn’t. All because I couldn’t handle it anymore and took a chance …

~Andrea

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ONLY 32 DAYS UNTIL CHRISTMAS!!!! I AM SO EXCITED!!! I might be in the minority here. Are you stressed? Shopping list a mile long and you haven’t even looked at it? I want to help! Perfectly Posh is a one stop shopping experience for everyone on your list!

This week is Perfectly Posh’s Pink Week. Forget 1 day of deals, Posh is giving us a week! Monday started it all. I am here to let you know what the deals are everyday so you can discover the awesomeness that is Perfectly Posh while getting the best deals possible! Today’s Posh deal is Stocking Stuffers! You can find everything on my site purposefullyposh.com. Here is a list of the sale items (prices for today only).

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*NEW! Kissletoe Peppermint Lip Gloss — $15 I NEED THIS!!
*All Sun and Games Green Coffee Body Scrub — $14 (reg $15) Did someone say coffee?
*Bubbles on Bubbles on Bubbles Moisturizing Body Wash — $12 (reg $16) My littles use   this! 
*IndiGo Girl Bombinator Bar — $9 (reg $10) *SOLD OUT* Bummer! Make sure you check   my site everyday when you wake up! 
*Walk on the Beach Dry Body Oil — $16 (reg $24) This stuff rocks! 
*Moisturize 911 Facial Moisturizer — $16 (reg $19) Household favorite!
*Hot and Gold Firming Face Mask — $18 (reg $19) I love this mask! 
*Lemon Wedgie Lip Scrub — $10 (reg $14) Perfect for chapped lips! 
*Blacklisted Sugar and Blackberry Body Scrub — $20 (reg $24) exfoliate & hydrate winter   skin! 
*Catch Me If You Tan Sunning Body Balm — $18 (reg $20) anyone who misses Beach   Blanket needs this!! 
*Absolute Passionfruit Snarky Bar — $14 (reg $16) Snarky bars are my favorite way to   exfoliate! 
*Love Me Dew Hydrating Face Oil — $12 (reg $20) Get fresh faced! 
*Apricots Overnight Moisturizing Face Mask — $19 (reg $22) gentle enough for all skin   types, including kiddos!

Indigo Girl Free

You can find all of these, plus other fabulous products, HERE. As always don’t forget Posh offers B5G1 FREE on most items, plus shipping is flat rate $5.99 no matter how much you order! Even better wys $50+ an amazing Indigo Girl Body Butter will be added to your cart for FREE! Trust me when I tell you that you want this amazing silky, luxurious butter! The romantic candied violet scent will have you swooning!

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I want to thank everyone who supports my business so please use promo code THANKFUL when you check out to save $5 off your order! *only good 1 time per account*
Need help deciding what to get? I am here to help! Comment, message me, or find my group on Facebook. Just search purposefullyposh!
Happy Poshing!

~Andrea

Pink Week Day 2

ONLY 33 DAYS UNTIL CHRISTMAS!!!! I AM SO EXCITED!!! I might be in the minority here. Are you stressed? Shopping list a mile long and you haven’t even looked at it? I want to help! Perfectly Posh is a one stop shopping experience for everyone on your list!

I totally dropped the ball yesterday … For that I apologize. This week is Perfectly Posh’s Pink Week. Forget 1 day of deals, Posh is giving us a week! Yesterday started it all. I figured I would let you know what the deals are everyday so you can discover the awesomeness that is Perfectly Posh while getting the best deals possible. Today’s Posh deal is Stocking Stuffers! You can find everything on my site purposefullyposh.com. Here is a list of the sale items (prices for today only).

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NEW! Warm Welcome Big Fat Yummy Hand Crème — $9 (non-greasy & seriously amazing!)
Merry Glitzmas Bath Honey — $15.00 (I want this!)
Shore Perfection Foaming Hand Soap — $13.00 (smells divine!)
Mini Healer Skin Stick 10 Pack — $20.00 *SOLD OUT*
Hips Don’t Lie All Mixd Up — $18.00 (I love this AMU!)
BFF: Best Face Forever Exfoliating Face Wash — $20.00 (you need this. For real)
Whole Lava Love Volcanic Ash Exfoliator — $18.00 (MY FAV!!)
Cackle Spackle Detoxifying Face Mask — $17.00 (my teens’ favorite!)
Calling All Fairies Exfoliating Spun Sugar Face Mask — $14.00 (my 8 year old’s favorite!)
Share Coconut Oil — $10.00 *SOLD OUT*
Gender Bender Body Wash — $11.00 (Hubby’s favorite!)
Sun’s Out, Fun’s Out Replenishing Face Moisturizer — $12.00 (so cooling and fab!)
What a Lovely Pear Lip Scrub — $10.00 (perfect for chapped lips!)
Hairy Beast Shave Gel — $7.00 (We all love this in my house!)

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You can find all of these, plus other fabulous products, HERE. As always don’t forget Posh offers B5G1 FREE on most items, plus shipping is flat rate $5.99 no matter how much you order! As a Thank You to everyone who supports my business, use promo code THANKFUL when you check out to save $5 off your order! *only good 1 time per account*
Need help deciding what to get? I a here to help! comment, message me, or find my group on Facebook. Just search purposefullyposh!
Happy Poshing!

~Andrea