About Andrea

I am a wife and mom who is just trying to survive each day with a little bit of grace.

Pink Week Day 2

ONLY 33 DAYS UNTIL CHRISTMAS!!!! I AM SO EXCITED!!! I might be in the minority here. Are you stressed? Shopping list a mile long and you haven’t even looked at it? I want to help! Perfectly Posh is a one stop shopping experience for everyone on your list!

I totally dropped the ball yesterday … For that I apologize. This week is Perfectly Posh’s Pink Week. Forget 1 day of deals, Posh is giving us a week! Yesterday started it all. I figured I would let you know what the deals are everyday so you can discover the awesomeness that is Perfectly Posh while getting the best deals possible. Today’s Posh deal is Stocking Stuffers! You can find everything on my site purposefullyposh.com. Here is a list of the sale items (prices for today only).

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NEW! Warm Welcome Big Fat Yummy Hand Crème — $9 (non-greasy & seriously amazing!)
Merry Glitzmas Bath Honey — $15.00 (I want this!)
Shore Perfection Foaming Hand Soap — $13.00 (smells divine!)
Mini Healer Skin Stick 10 Pack — $20.00 *SOLD OUT*
Hips Don’t Lie All Mixd Up — $18.00 (I love this AMU!)
BFF: Best Face Forever Exfoliating Face Wash — $20.00 (you need this. For real)
Whole Lava Love Volcanic Ash Exfoliator — $18.00 (MY FAV!!)
Cackle Spackle Detoxifying Face Mask — $17.00 (my teens’ favorite!)
Calling All Fairies Exfoliating Spun Sugar Face Mask — $14.00 (my 8 year old’s favorite!)
Share Coconut Oil — $10.00 *SOLD OUT*
Gender Bender Body Wash — $11.00 (Hubby’s favorite!)
Sun’s Out, Fun’s Out Replenishing Face Moisturizer — $12.00 (so cooling and fab!)
What a Lovely Pear Lip Scrub — $10.00 (perfect for chapped lips!)
Hairy Beast Shave Gel — $7.00 (We all love this in my house!)

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You can find all of these, plus other fabulous products, HERE. As always don’t forget Posh offers B5G1 FREE on most items, plus shipping is flat rate $5.99 no matter how much you order! As a Thank You to everyone who supports my business, use promo code THANKFUL when you check out to save $5 off your order! *only good 1 time per account*
Need help deciding what to get? I a here to help! comment, message me, or find my group on Facebook. Just search purposefullyposh!
Happy Poshing!

~Andrea

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Forgiveness

What does forgiveness mean to you? How do you define it?

My husband and I were asked this today in therapy. Now before you jump to ideas and think he and I are having martial problems that need forgiving; we aren’t. Is our marriage perfect? No. However, we don’t go to marriage counseling. We go to “life is messy and we would like a person with an outside perspective to walk with us through it” counseling. Not that there is anything wrong with marriage counseling. I think it is a great resource. I just want to be clear so you can understand us just a little.

So we were asked this question “What does forgiveness mean?” I had to think about it because I know what it means but I wasn’t sure how to best describe it.

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This is basically what I came up with … Forgiving is freeing yourself, and really the other person also. You don’t even have to tell the other person you forgive them. When you do, the atmosphere and aura change and it positively impacts both of you. Freeing yourself means letting go and moving forward. You are done. You  don’t forget, but you leave it. You are free.

Mark said something similar … you stop feeding into whatever “it” is and you let it die. You move forward. You don’t forget but you leave it in the past.

Our person reminded us it is actually a financial reference (I had totally forgotten this!). The debt is whipped clean. It is gone. You are free.

They all go together. Forgiving helps you and the person who hurt, wronged, or whatever you.

Something pretty heavy and serious happened to us this summer and the actions of one person (not Mark or I) damaged us. We were shaken and hurt to the core. We were left with an enormous gaping hole of hurt. Life is messy and this was the biggest mess yet.
We were asked what will happen if we forgive (person)? How will (person) respond? Does (person) realize forgiveness is even needed?

So we are pondering this.

We were also asked what would happen if we symbolically bury the hurt in the back yard (although I think funeral pyre is more dramatic if we are going for symbolism). If (person) is there to observe will the impact of what happened and how it affected us finally be realized (person thinks simply forgetting and moving on is easy to do, we think otherwise). Will it help with forgiveness? Will it help us be able to stop carrying baggage we don’t want but have no idea how to put down?

It will be an interesting 2 weeks as we figure this out and do an additional assignment we were challenged with. Think about this (and share with me if you want) what does forgiveness in your life look like? What does it mean? Have you ever needed to be forgiven for something serious? Have you ever needed to do the forgiving? What happened when you were forgiven or forgave? Are you free? Or are you still carrying the baggage (I promise not to judge because I still carry mine)?

~Andrea

Huge Change

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This year, quite at the last minute, Marco and I decided to place the girls into public school. This is something we talked about ever since we moved into our current school district. When we first moved here we knew the school was a great school, Dee would be going into kindergarten so it would have been great timing. This is what stopped us:

1) Dee had massive anxiety. It was so extreme I was afraid putting her into school would be more harmful than good and I wanted her to love school.

2) The year prior had been awful. Marco lost his job, we lived in different states, and we were homeless. Mark slept on the couch at a friend’s place here and I hopped from place to place. I stayed at an empty house owned by a church, my parents’ house, and hotels. I dragged the kids and dog along with me. It was stressful. The unstable life we led made me want to create a bubble of stability for my kids. I wanted them home with me.

3) Debilitating fear of what the homeschool community would think of me for sending my kids to public school, the fear of being ostracized by homeschoolers and public school mommas since I wouldn’t really fall into either category exclusively, and the fear of being a failure. I feared I had failed at homeschooling my girls. Yes, I realize now that I hadn’t failed, but my fear was real and legitimate.

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We finally came to a breaking point. I was burnt out. Dee and I would fight every time I tried to teach her reading. Math and art and every other subject as fine, but reading? Oh my word. It was awful. Math came easy to her, but reading was hard and she would rather play than read. I cried a lot. She cried a lot. It was not how homeschooling should be. One would think the kid with learning issues and special needs would be the one I struggled to teach. Nope.

To make all of this all 100% worse we were in a homeschool co-op that was the worst experience ever. I loved the other moms there, but the leaders were terrible. They believe in 100% unbending conformity (when I told my therapist this he shuddered). They were not nice people and I hated the toxic environment I was in. I knew I wasn’t going to go back there, but at the same time I knew I couldn’t be home 7 days a week with all 5 kids because I was burnt out. Working at minimum 2 jobs and at maximum 4 jobs, I needed help.

All summer long I struggled with “The Great Debate.” Public school or homeschool? Then one of the kids had a medical crisis and I had to make a decision. The day before classes started I walked into the school and signed the girls up. That was a Tuesday. School started Wednesday. The girls first day was Friday. The entire time we never said a word to anyone other than a few very close people. We did not put up first day of school pictures or discuss it at all.

We lived life and no one noticed. This is a little sad because this means no one really paid any attention to subtle things I said or did. However, I get it. I can miss subtly at times also. My homeschooling friends had no idea the girls were gone all day. I mentioned school and they simply assumed I meant homeschool.

Why didn’t I say anything? I didn’t want to deal with the unnecessary questions and remarks. Remarks that are usually untrue and only hurtful.

“Why did you put them in public school?”
“You know public is not as good as it used it be right?”
“Aren’t you scared of bullies and your kids learning immoral things and growing up too fast?”
“They never really get free time or socialization in school. They will burn out.”
“You are being selfish because you are working. Maybe you should quit your jobs” (or what ever reason they come up with)
“They are at school all day and come home to do homework all night. Do you really want that?”
“You are at the mercy of the schools.”
“Why are you still homeschooling the boys?”
“Do you favor the boys?”

Oh the list of snarky remarks and questions is endless. I didn’t want to deal with them because it is no one’s business. Period. So we didn’t say anything. Mark respected my wishes to keep it quiet. Then the girls had school pictures and I posted them…

People were shocked, but the girls are firmly established in school so no one said anything. I could tell a few people really wanted to, but they held their tongues and I am glad they did. A few people were super happy for us. They understood the turmoil I must have gone through because they messaged me to tell me they deal with the same debate. I felt less alone, less like a failure, and more empowered.

 

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My gorgeous, thriving girls. They are world changers.

The girls are thriving! Ry’s teacher refers to her as an “asset.” What an amazing word! She isn’t just a good kid or studious or smart. She is an asset. This means she is valuable to the class and they need her and greatly benefit from her! WOW! I am pretty sure no one ever referred to me as an asset. When I told Ry the compliment she was glowing. What an amazing confidence boost for a 10 year old girl who was trying to fit in to an already established class. When we went to Parent/Teacher Conference we could tell her teacher really loves her! What an amazing feeling! The confirmation we made the right decision is just what I needed.

Delaney, not surprising, is known as a sweet heart. Everyone loves her gentle and kind ways. Dee still has lots of anxiety, but she is coming out of her shell and developing her strengths. School was exactly what she needed in order to spread her wings and fly. The teacher works one-pm-one with her and the fact they all have gathered to be a foundation under her makes my heart swell. They want to see her succeed. They could easily not care, but they do. Adding these positive influences into her life has been only a blessing.

We have no regrets. This was exactly what needed to be done. The boys are thriving at home, Charlie is getting more in depth one-on-one with me; something he desperately needed. I am far more calm and far less stressed. I am able to better focus and I accomplish more.

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The days are calmer.

Every family needs to decide what is right for them and their children. Don’t let anyone ever make you feel like you are a failure because you didn’t do things they way they think you should. You do what you need to do and own it! Being supportive is always the better option.

~Andrea

Christmas, Christmas Everywhere!

Perfectly Posh is making me feel all Christmas-y and my husband is not amused at all. He is a die-hard “Christmas doesn’t start until the day after Thanksgiving” type of guy (and please read his quote in a mocking voice because that is how I imitate him about this). I am all like “November 1! BOOM! It is Christmas! Thanksgiving? Psh! Just a warm up for the real holiday!”

OK, so why is Posh making me feel all Christmas-y? Well, let me tell you! They keep releasing amazing holiday themed products! Oh boy! This stuff in da bomb! Sorry, I don’t really talk like that. Two products have already been released!

If you haven’t already, please got check out “It’s beginning to smell a lot like Christmas!” I’ll wait …. (cue Jeopardy song)

Done? Awesome! Now to tell you Posh has 2 more winter items AND 2 more are coming!!! If you can’t do math, that will be a total of SIX holiday themed Posh products!! *cue happy dance*

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Last night I got home and was delighted to discover my order arrived. What was in the fabulous Poshy box? Well, there was lots of stuff, but I am here to tell you about Snow & Tell Brightening Face Moisturizer and Love you Snow Much (isn’t that the best name ever?! Gah! So cute!) O2 Bubbling Face Mask.

Wait. What?? Did you just say O2 bubbling face mask? What the heck is an O2 bubbling face mask?

Patience Grasshopper. I will tell you in due course.
First I want to remind you these awesome holiday-themed items are specialty items. One might even call them Limited-Edition. They are available until sold out and if you don’t get them right away there is a chance you will cry when you no longer can get them. You can go HERE to grab them now.

OK, now let’s chat about this really fascinating face mask I mentioned above. What the heck is an O2 face mask, you ask? Well, oxygenating face masks are very trendy right now. They work to remove impurities from the skin and clean out your pores without drying out your skin. The bubbles are tingly and tickly and leave your face clean and refreshed. Perfectly Posh loves adding on-trend products to our line-up so I wasn’t surprised when they introduced Love You Snow Much. “Brighten dull winter skin with licorice root and vitamin B3 in this bubbling gel-to-foam face mask with tingling mint.”

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About 3 pumps, rub onto face, leave for about 10 minutes, rinse, pat dry. That’s it!

This mask is effervescent, super peppermint-y, and leaves you with a refreshing, cooling sensation. If you love the feel of BFF, then you will surely love Love You Snow Much. Can I just say, I am really, really obsessed with Love You Snow Much! I am definitely buying several more to have on hand!

The other new product Posh released is Snow & Tell and it was no mistake they released this at the same time as Love You Snow Much. It is the perfect moisturizing follow-up after your new bubbly face mask. “May your face be merry and bright! Licorice root and vitamin C promotes the appearance of more even looking skin tone with moisturizing cocoa and Shea butters.”

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This face moisturizer is going to be the best thing ever for your winter face! Yes, you have a winter face. Our skin needs different things based on the season/weather. My skin is so dry in the winter! I get chapped and red and raw. It is terrible! A good face moisturizer is the only way to protect your skin and prevent raw, winter skin! The combination of cocoa and Shea butters will leave your skin hydrated and fabulous. I plan to stock up on this also. Oh, and did I mention this guy is vegan? Well, it is!

You can get both Love You Snow Much and Snow & Tell for just $19 (not including tax & shipping). If you want to learn more about Perfectly Posh products or maybe you are thinking “Hey, I want get in on this action.” I would love to chat! Send me a message!

Otherwise, put your best (winter) face forward with these 2 amazing products. And don’t forget to pick up some for gifts as well!

~Andrea

 

Change is Bad …

Have you ever watched Big Bang Theory? If not, WHY????? Do you know who Sheldon is? If not. WHY?????
Seriously, if you haven’t seen it go watch Season 1 real quick and then come back and finish reading my post.

I have a 13 year old and he is Sheldon. OK, not literally, but if you want to know the personality of my 13 year old just think of Sheldon. He has his own chair that is only his and don’t even think about sitting in it, or near it, or even think about sitting in or near it. Heck, just don’t think about it at all.

This is the kid who tries so hard to understand and participate in sarcasm, but last therapy session admitted that he usually has no idea what is going on. He is literal. Period.

This kid knows the name of every single Star Wars Clone Trooper (even the ones with numbers instead of names) and if and how they died. One car ride he sat there rattling them off for 30 minutes before I finally said “Honey, I have no idea what you are talking about.” he continued rattling them off, but at a faster pace, until he was done.

If you already know what he is telling you and you tell him he doesn’t have to finish his thought since you already know….well, sit tight because he HAS to finish his thought. Things are always done in a certain order and in a certain way. This all creates a calm world for him.

Why am I telling you this? Well, it is Halloween and that means the kids will dress up and go door to door and ask for candy. The 13 year old will wear the same costume he wore the last 4 years, a Hershey Bar. And despite my best efforts to get his to say “Trick or Treat,” he won’t. He will say, much to my horror, “Please give me back my relatives.” People will look at him oddly but that is OK, he won’t notice. He will instead tell everyone just how funny he is and how everyone thinks he is hilarious and witty.

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Halloween 2014 — I don’t remember which cloud storage the previous Halloween pictures are in!  

He tried his costume on today and looked at me and said “I don’t think this will fit me next year.” His look of horror broke my heart. He didn’t say it but you could hear “What will I do?” linger in the dead silence. I am glad he came to this realization on his own. I am glad he has a year to try to come to terms with this reality. However, I know that the future me will have to deal with the future 14 year old’s inability to really “go with the flow.”

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This was the year we lost the brown knit cap … Halloween was almost canceled. 

So tonight I am going to treasure the last year of the Hershey bar. I am not even going to tell him not to ask for his relatives back. I might roll my eyes, but I will make sure he doesn’t see it.
Tonight is the end of an era. It may not seem significant to you, but it is to the 13 year old and therefor it is to us. Wish us luck!

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Getting a picture of him is never fun, but he let me do a selfie with him. Not stellar, but I will take it.

~Andrea

Dream Journal

I do not hide the fact I see a therapist. Sometimes you just need a little guidance or an extra ear to listen. Sometimes you need serious intervention. Whatever the case, there is no shame … or at least there shouldn’t be, so I try to normalize the completely normal by openly talking about it.

That said, my therapist suggested a dream journal. I can’t decided if this is to help me or to entertain him because I get some seriously weird dreams y’all. I tell my dreams to my husband and he always looks at me and says “Your subconscious is a scary, scary place.”

My dreams are so vivid I sometimes can’t even tell if they were a dream or reality. I hate that. I feel like I am going crazy when that happens. They just seem so incredibly real! Many nights I am sound asleep but fretting and my husband is left to groggily soothe me so he can go back to sleep. I rarely remember those dreams, but I always remember the feelings I had in them; fear, anxiety, stress.

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I have done a fairly decent job at getting my dreams written, but this morning the first half of my dream just ran away from me, like running water through your fingers. I find that frustrating. All day I have been trying to remember the first part of the dream. As I type this blog post, my mind is still trying to grasp that earlier dream. I can remember the second half completely. I can still feel the cold and damp from the fog and smell the brisk air … these things didn’t happen but they were so real to my subconscious that have stuck with me all day. The first half though? It is like when you have Deja Vu and can’t quite figure out why. Did it really happen before?

I am curious to see where this rabbit hole of journal writing leads. Will it open an inner perspective? Maybe it will simply provide some seriously interesting writings. Hm, maybe this is where my riches will come from. (I kid! I kid!)

I do have hopes for this endeavor. I am hoping that I will no longer hate the prospect of sleep (I can’t stand these vivid dreams). I hope to garner insight. I am not sure what specifically I am looking to learn, but I want to learn something.

So I have to wonder, who else has a dream journal? I can’t be the only one who has insanely crazy and totally “out there” dreams. Share if you wish.

~Andrea

It’s Beginning To Smell A Lot Like Christmas!

It’s beginning to smell a lot like Christmas! Yup, you read the right! SMELL! Mmmmm! I love the smell of Christmas! Today’s scents are brought to you by Perfectly Posh’s October Splurge. 

A Splurge is a once a month specialty item. It is available until it is sold out and if you don’t get it right away there is a chance you will cry when you no longer can get it.

So what are the fabulous scents I am smelling??

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First up is Nice Ice Glittery Skin Stick. This is so.much.fun! It glitterfies your skin, giving you an icy shimmer! I am in love! I love all things sparkly so this skin stick and I were simply meant to be. Loaded with Shea and Cocoa Butters, your dry winter skin will get seriously moisturized and nourished. It has a light, crisp, peppermint scent that invokes the image of the Candy Cane dance sequence in The Nutcracker. Leap, twirl, and dance your way to glittery happiness!

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This is going to be the best stocking stuffer for the glitter lovers in your life. It is also a great gift idea for teens; my teen has several friends he needs to get gifts for and this is perfect! Super fun, great quality, and the perfect size and price point!

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The second item is Holly Jolly Chunk. Perfectly Posh Chunks are amazing.
*they are huge and last 2-3 months, easy
*tallow free
*free of parabens, sulfates, SLS, etc
*uses moisturizing butters, like Shea and Mango Seed
*amazing scents
*sustainable palm oil
*most are vegan

Holly Jolly is one of the vegan chunks. It is also gorgeous; a deep Merlot color that makes me want to draw a bath and sip a glass of wine while I relax and drink up the intoxicating scents of my Posh products (Falliday Fizis, Bubble Up, and Holly Jolly make a perfect triple combo act!).

Speaking of scents, this glorious chunk is so juicy smelling! It has a sweet-tart pomegranate-meet-citrus scent that reminds me of all the warm and cozy scents of Christmas. I think of cranberry garlands and dried orange slice ornaments and cloves and cinnamon sticks. OK, so there is no cinnamon scent at all, but it is one of the scent memories invoked when I smell Holly Jolly. I love this and need a million!

Again, this makes a great holiday gift. The price point is phenomenal at just $9, so it meets the usual $10 price point for Secret Santa and Yankee Swap! Toss it is a super cute gift bag and the recipient will feel utterly spoiled.

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All I want for Christmas is parcel of Posh! (please tell me you  sang that to the 2 front teeth tune).

~Andrea

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